Finding happiness when someone won’t leave you alone.
Have you ever had to be around someone that annoyed you so bad that you just wanted to strangle them? Your waking thoughts were focused on how to get this person out of your life, even wishing on their demise or some other misfortune. Many of us have had to deal with that person you just couldn’t get along with. This actually happens all the time and do you want to know something crazy? Nature does the same thing. Some plants will not grow with others. Walnut trees, pine trees, ferns and sunflowers are among the plants that release harmful chemicals to prevent other plants from growing too close to them. Apparently nature (we are a part of nature) is not designed for perfect harmony amongst all things. The universal law of duality states that all things have an opposite. Sometimes opposites will never get along. So how do you deal with the frustration of annoying coworkers, friends, or family? Great question. Unfortunately the answer is not so simple as just ignore them. I have tried this method and although it does work, it is not always so easy.
Let me tell you about an experience I had over a three year period. My office hired a new investigator. Let’s call him Jpmack1911. He was a short funny looking guy, about 5’6″, 30 years old and already bald. Loved his guns he claimed, as well as his race. He was the most insecure person I have ever met. He appeared to have downs syndrome, and when he was hired everyone assumed he was special and we were not allowed to criticize the many mistakes that he made, or the odd way that he behaved.
JP began copying things that I would say in the office as if he said them originally, trying to fit in. He began trying to dress like me, he would even tell lies about his kids, that he didn’t have, so that he could fit in. After a while he was so annoying i couldn’t even speak when he was around. He was not just a thorn on a personal level, but he had no business being in a position of authority, he was not equipped mentally to handle the responsibilities. Behind his back he was the joke of the department and the store. However no one was allowed to reprimand, guide, or counsel him. Many people coddled him due to his odd looks and behaviors.
The super unfortunate thing was that I had to sit next to him for about six hours a day. Listen to his lies, listen to him trying to tell me about his avid scuba diving days, when in fact he went on a snorkel trip, once, maybe. It was three years of hell on earth for me. The one time I did call him an idiot for not knowing his job after 3 years, I was sent home from work for the day. Crazy…
Jp would even stalk me on my websites and social media, leaving bad misleading reviews, he is probably reading this.. Hi… (although one of his reviews was slightly accurate, and helped me rework my advertising… ThThanks Jn) When I think back and try to figure out how I stayed sane, and not try to kill him or myself for that matter. I discovered that I could spend my days researching natural foods, medicines, nature, and positive thought. I was fortunate enough to have a smartphone that allowed me to focus on my own interests instead of the annoying guy next to me. My escape from reality was self-education. I was able to learn a lot about nature and how it balances our lives. I learned how plants grow, and how they ensure our good health. I learned that nature has healing powers I studied positive thought mentors like Tony Robbins and Brendon Burchard. while jp watched videos of car crashes I was improving many areas of my life through self education. This period of time could have been devastating to my life, and there were many days that I felt like I should just give up. I couldn’t let one person dictate how my life was going to be. I had a choice, I could focus on myself, grow my knowledge base, or focus on the negativity. I was able to move my life forward by adapting to a negative situation by setting an intention to learn, until jpmack1911 was removed from my life. Luckily jp quit working with me, and my emotions became easier to control.
Once the large negative block was taken out of my life, I could relax my mind and I was able to look back on the experience realizing that had it not been for jp, I would never have studied as hard as I did. That little lying, annoying, man was actually a blessing in my life. How crazy is that? What I felt was three years of hell on earth was in fact heaven on earth. Keep your eyes and mind open to what the universe is telling you. Seems there is always a higher power guiding our lives. I should have been open minded and noticed how good I had it. Knowing that this period of my life was not the hell I had perceived, but actually a blessing makes it possible for me to find the positive reasons for what is happening in my life today, and to replay other events in my life in a more positive way. Thus setting me up for a life full of great experiences.
If you want to ensure you find a lifetime of happiness, you will have to find the good in all events in your life. It is not always easy, and over fifty years I’ve made many mistakes. But I also have had many successes. When I go back through my history, I have hurt people, been hurt by people, loved, hated, I’ve lived a full life, but now I can see how each event was actually a blessing guiding me to be who I am today. Keep looking for the good, it is all around us even when we don’t want to see it.
Your goal for today is to see one terrible event in your life, and find how there was actually good that came out of it, or an event taking place right now that you need to create some positive momentum over. Once you see the possibility of good, say thank you. Be grateful that the universe has your back. Focus on the small good that can be found and try to expand it until the whole event screams positivity. You can do it! Our minds are capable of amazing things and adding gratitude to the mix, makes all things possible. Have a great day!?
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